It’s Okay

January 11, 2015

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Some days you can’t smile, but you’re still okay.  Some days a pose seems ridiculous so a no-pose is fine.

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Some days you wanna make something but your brain can’t wrap around numbers and measurements so you just start cutting and sewing.  That can actually turn out okay too.

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It’s okay to say yes to a friend who invites you to lunch, and it’s okay to go to bed before friends come over for a holiday visit.  They’ll see you next time and besides, the rest of the family is perfectly capable of entertaining them.

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Tomorrow’s going to be okay too, and the day after that.  It’s all okay.

Outfit details:  Thrifted and upcycled wool/cashmere/silk top- Dr.Frankenstein, men’s jeans-H&M, upcyled cashmere/silk scarf-me, handmade sterling silver earrings-gift from Lynzee Lynx.  Check her out if you love beautiful things.

Lastly, a huge thank you for all your condolences and love; it really does make a difference.  I’m excited about the new year.  There are many changes on the horizon and I will definitely keep you in the loop.  XXOO





32 Responses to It’s Okay

  1. Melanie on January 11, 2015 at 7:08 pm

    I love you standing in Sherwood Forest and then with your hands up, I surrender, your no-poses. Yes, I feel like that so often, moving ahead with no map and ending up someplace kinda’ solidly okay. Clearly your sewing project came out spectacularly. I especially love the shoulders and the block of pattern. And the earrings by Lynzee Lynx are beautiful.

    I’m excited about the new year with you.

    • Jean on January 11, 2015 at 7:32 pm

      I think the shoulders are my favorite part too. They create these funny little peaks when it’s on, almost like dinosaur spikes. I think I’d like to expand on that moving forward. The earrings have a beautiful hammered texture that wasn’t captured in the photo.

      I think the other day I wrote a note to myself that said surrender but don’t give up. :-)

  2. Shawna on January 11, 2015 at 10:24 pm

    Standing with the tree is so right because you are like a tree. You are flexible, you are soft but strong. You will bend but you will not easily break. I am all for non smiling non poses despite that fact that I am very smiley in real life. Being in front of a camera doesn’t feel natural for me no matter how well I am coping with what life has thrown at me.

    Your upcycled sweater is fabulous! It looks so soft and comfortable yet is edgy and creative with a touch of drama. That seems very appropriate for you.

    • Jean on January 12, 2015 at 10:52 am

      Thank you for such a lovely supportive comment. I like knowing you’re very smiley in real life! I bet you give good hugs too. :-)

  3. Vix on January 12, 2015 at 4:33 am

    The cutting up and going with the flow worked beautifully, I love what you created. The earrings are incredibly gorgeous.
    Things are still raw, you’re allowed to be kind to yourself and do what feels right. Its not the year that’s new,every day is another opportunity. xxxx

    • Jean on January 12, 2015 at 10:56 am

      It felt so good to create that way and I know I’ll be doing more. I’ve missed you!! I’ve visited a few times but when I get around to leaving a comment, my dinosaur of a computer is so slow, I give up. But you always make me happy!! Thank you for being you. Love you. XXOO

  4. pao on January 12, 2015 at 9:13 am

    It’s good to see you, Jean. As you are, wearing your so naturally made creations. So comfy and chic, protected, yet out there. They always make me say, why haven’t I thought of that? I feel like I miss you.

    • Jean on January 12, 2015 at 11:03 am

      The feeling is mutual. Plus, when I look at the things you create, I think the same thing!!! I thought of you as I was sewing this last piece, wondering why I didn’t pin it on the dress form using the technique I’ve heard you describe. I’m ALWAYS inspired by you with your artful sewing. I’ve been thinking of you too as I prepare to move my mother here at the end of the month. I remember when you moved your mom. Love you Pao!!

  5. Curtise on January 12, 2015 at 10:04 am

    It’s lovely to see you, Jean – more than just OK! I think that a stretch of time where you go with whatever you need is just fine – rest, time alone, accepting support from loved ones, making (clothes, plans) or not making, just being. You’re so right – it’s all OK. Love the cut-sew-and-see top, and love you too. xxx

    • Jean on January 12, 2015 at 11:10 am

      Thanks so much. I can feel that cyber hug from here. I’m determined that one of these days I’ll come across the pond for a real one. :-) Hope your new year is off to a good start. I promise I’ll be by to get a glimpse and be refreshed by your fabulous style, adorable face, and kind, funny delivery. Love you back.

  6. Shelley@ForestCityFashionista on January 12, 2015 at 4:09 pm

    Jean, you do whatever you need to do to heal your damaged soul – poses, no poses, sleeping, lunches with friends, sewing Frankenstein creations, etc. It will all be okay, really. Your creation is just perfect for right now – cozy, muted, protective. Sending a hug your way XO

    • Jean on January 15, 2015 at 8:52 pm

      If I didn’t get crazy hot flashes, I think I’d be wearing it every day. Thank you Shelley. I hope to see you in the upcoming year! Maybe the Manhattan vintage show; I’d love that. XXOO

  7. PinkCheetahVintage on January 12, 2015 at 4:38 pm

    Definitely ok <3

    • Jean on January 15, 2015 at 8:53 pm

      Oh Becky, thank you so much. Sending love back.

    • Jean on January 15, 2015 at 8:53 pm

      Oh Becky, thank you so much. Sending love back.

  8. Jazzy Jack on January 14, 2015 at 7:09 pm

    Swaddling yourself in a selfmade hug sounds about perfect for Winter of the body and soul.
    Lovely to be inspired by your flow once again! Hugs to you. Jazzy Jack

    • Jean on January 15, 2015 at 8:55 pm

      It felt good to sew and share. Glad you felt inspired, too. I promise there’ll be more. :-)

  9. Natalia Lialina on January 15, 2015 at 12:46 am

    Jean, you are wonderful just the way you are, right now, this very moment! Your creations are gorgeous, so naturally flowing. I am not especially a systematic person myself. I think for intuitive people like you it’s just the only right thing to live in the moment, to do what feels right this very second, and if it seems irrational for someone else, that’s just fine – we need to be true to ourselves. I wish you lived closer! xxxxx

    • Jean on January 15, 2015 at 9:02 pm

      I wish we lived closer to each other too!! I always feel uplifted by your posts and insight, and I love your aesthetic sensitivity and kindness. Thank you for your empathy. I agree too, that as an intuitive person, I have to listen to that small voice. I get into trouble when I don’t. XXXOOO

  10. Grunge Queen on January 16, 2015 at 7:07 am

    Dear Jean, thank you so much for your lovely comment on my blog. I had no idea what has been happening in your life. Please accept my most heartfelt and belated condolences over the loss of your father. You are wise to not put pressure on yourself, as is so easy to do, and go with the flow, as you say. I hope that time and your amazing creativity help to lessen your pain soon. Sending healing thoughts your way across the great divide of ocean, Kelly xoxo

    • Jean on January 16, 2015 at 10:46 am

      As with many of my blogging friends, I wish we lived closer!! It made me happy to see you, the children, etc. I’ve been out of touch and look forward to reconnecting as time moves forward. That’s part of the healing process too. XXOO

  11. The Style Crone on January 16, 2015 at 10:08 am

    Ahhhh, surrender. Your post is so very real and expressive, which is who you are. Thank you for sharing your process as you navigate difficult times. Loss has it’s own timeline.

    Your photos and the pieces that you create as you grieve tell a story. A beautiful and artful flow marking a place and time in a life fully lived. I look forward to what you weave from all that you’re experiencing. I feel honored to have met you.

    Sending much love to you and your loved ones. Xoxo

    • Jean on January 16, 2015 at 10:58 am

      We are lucky to have found eachother. I remember looking at Style Crone every morning before I got out of bed, feeling that connection, profoundly inspired by your journey and creativity. This was before I started blogging, before we ever met. I can truthfully say that you have changed my life for the better.

      Grateful forever. XXOO

  12. Jan Graham-McMillen on January 18, 2015 at 10:53 am

    So much more than okay on this end when we can see your very pretty face above that fabulous Jean-Designed boxy tunic … I’m in complete love with it, and your instincts are flawless, as always, about just getting in and allowing your creation to giveink birth to itself! Soooo happy to see you, Darling Jean!
    You are quite right. It’s all okay, especially taking care of yourself.
    Delighted to hear from you and see you again!

    • Jean on January 26, 2015 at 11:33 pm

      You are in the family of kindest, most generous bloggers!! Thank you for sticking by me as I traverse this complicated time!! I’m always happy to hear from you. XXOO

  13. Rosalind jana on January 18, 2015 at 5:01 pm

    Yes, all so very much OK, each day, each moment, each feeling as it rises. Just so pleased to see you here; to see you creating and being kind to yourself, day by day. Sending you much, much love.

    • Jean on January 26, 2015 at 11:48 pm

      Oh Roz!! Please read a book for me, write a brilliant essay, and know that in doing so you feed my spirit. I love knowing that you’re carrying a torch for all of us who treasure intelligence and compassion. You are lovely, and thank you for your comment. Sending much, much love back!!

  14. Feda on January 21, 2015 at 9:02 pm

    This post is so refreshing. I love the poses, the vulnerability and confidence in BEING whatever that entails or looks like. The shirt came out amazing! and looks so warm! You need to bring some of that to MA when you come because you’ll need it. Those earrings are sooo gorgeous took! Lynzee is so talented!

    SO much love to yoU! XOXO

    • Jean on January 26, 2015 at 11:52 pm

      I wish I’d brought that shirt!! It was seriously cold today, right? So glad I could see you and spend time together, however. Looking forward to the next time…!!!

  15. joni@artfulcloset on January 28, 2015 at 10:07 am

    Jean, thinking of you fondly lately and sending you a warm hug to go with your warm patchwork sweater (gorgeous). Looking forward to hearing of your new inspirations soon.

  16. Kaffesoester on February 3, 2015 at 11:13 am

    So sad to learn about your loss. It does take time to learn to live without – and it’s painful. But I think you can heal yourself through creative outlet.

    My mother was widowed 2 years ago, and she painted so many paintings in the following months. She found a sort of peace and strength in this, like others get from gardening. The important thing is not to try and rush things. We have to allow ourselves time to mourn. So like the others have said: It’s OK

  17. Amber of Butane Anvil on March 29, 2015 at 9:55 am

    Dear Jean, you have been on my mind and in my heart with the same steady love and solid friendship that abides, that transcends time and space and gaps in on-gridness. My arms around you and your fantastic Frankenstein top. xoxo

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