August 6, 2015


Excuse me if I ramble.  There are a lot of things that confuse me.  Like why slower traffic never moves to the right anymore.  (So Vix and Curtise, does it hold true that traffic never moves to the left anymore?!) Guess the average driver doesn’t know.  Problem is, it makes congestion worse. So why isn’t there a public awareness campaign?  Aha!  It’s because they can ticket the frustrated drivers who speed trying to get around, generating revenue.  And that’s just the tip of the iceberg of this insanity, tragically.  Greed, not money, is truly the root of all evil.


So, moving on for the moment.  I’m confused about really little things too, like why does my cell phone spontaneously call someone after I’ve finished a call and hung up?  I keep thinking that glitches in technology will cause a nuclear holocaust.   What the hell?  What if my recycling really doesn’t get recycled?   I also realize that I have the luxury of being “confused”.  If I was truly struggling like so many humans on the planet, I’d be totally clear and focused on pure survival.


What I come back to is this.  I believe that no matter what, loving-kindness is the goal, the pot of gold at the end of the imaginary rainbow.  It’s what makes anything worth doing or trying.  It’s contagious, just like fear, so I try to spread the love-virus.


To be a carrier, no matter what the outer appearance is.  Weigh every decision, as tiny as it may be, to determine if it’s fear-based or love-based, and then choose the latter.  Don’t second guess, but trust that it’s what I’m here to do.  It’s still totally confusing, I’ll admit.  I really don’t know if I’m coming or going.  In this moment I thought I was going.  Haha.


Fooled ya!!!  XXOO!!

Outfit details: Guatemalan shirt-thrifted and altered, striped skirt-H&M then altered, silver earrings-thrifted, bracelets and rings-self-made, gifted, and thrifted.  Amazing handmade deerskin bag-thrift score of the century.



29 Responses to Chillin

  1. Feda on August 6, 2015 at 9:06 pm

    Loooove this outfit!! Simple and comfortable but so YOU in all the details! Those refs in the shirt are stunning on you and love how your hair is transforming! Your writing is so on point and such a beautiful reminder in all the chaos. It’s easy to get caught up in the negative and wonder what this is all for. Then you catch those moments of Beaty that take your breath away and you can just as easily get lost in it and forget about the chaos. Lol LIFE what are you!!! Xoxo

    • Jean on August 6, 2015 at 9:50 pm

      I like that…just as easily get “lost in the Beauty”. Thanks lovely. XXOO

  2. pao on August 6, 2015 at 9:40 pm

    Sounds familiar. I’ve been there, chillin, cruisin, confusin, in and out. Kinda coincides with that book Judith was talking about recently, The Upside of Stress. Are my responses fear/ flight-based or I can handle it/ challenge/ get support by helping others-based. Something like that. Meanwhile you look great in your ensemble which is always a big plus anyway you look at it. Cheers!

    • Jean on August 6, 2015 at 9:49 pm

      Yup. I plan on getting that book, even if it’s just a massage for my frazzled nerves. :-) So sorry I didn’t get to see you in Vancouver. I was cheering you on, however. Thank you for your comment. Remind me…Chicago? I’ll be in Toledo at some point. Must connect!!

  3. Glenda on August 6, 2015 at 9:59 pm

    I had to come by and tell you how much I dig your hair.

    • Jean on August 6, 2015 at 10:20 pm

      Game recognizes game!!! :-)

  4. Connie* on August 7, 2015 at 1:58 am

    Ramble away. It’s that free thinking that brings about the best ideas. I worry about the recycling, too.

    • Jean on August 7, 2015 at 6:09 pm

      Agreed! I find really creative ideas come when I’m not “thinking” at all. XO

  5. The Style Crone on August 7, 2015 at 8:47 am

    The first photo is killer! Your hair has never looked more beautiful, with the full effect revealed in the last photo. In the midst of chaos you retain your sense of humor, style, ability to write beautifully and your mode of loving-kindness. Thanks for spreading the virus during my morning coffee.


    • Jean on August 7, 2015 at 6:09 pm

      You’re welcome, and thank you too!! :-)

  6. Shelley@Forestcityfashionista on August 7, 2015 at 3:50 pm

    I think the grey hair is going to look dynamite on you, especially with the colours you like to wear. That bag IS a stellar find – the thrifting gods were smiling on you that day.

    I worry about my recycling too, and that it’s all just being dumped in a big hole somewhere outside the city. I try not to think tooo much about that stuff or I would go bonkers.

  7. Jean on August 7, 2015 at 6:16 pm

    Every now and then the thrifting gods absolutely grin from ear to ear. They must know it keeps me totally devoted to them. And yes, I also try not to think about a lot of stuff I could be obsessed with/worry about. I pick my battles to maintain my sanity, and hope there are enough folks who pick different ones. XXOO

  8. Jazzy Jack on August 7, 2015 at 7:17 pm

    I didn’t know you were transitioning your hair. Seems I’m behind!
    You always look elegant with your long limbs.
    Having a scary time right now with my son, so holding on to this…thinking of love and life and gratitude.
    Xo Jazzy Jack

    • Jean on August 8, 2015 at 12:07 am

      No, not behind at all. You’re just right. I’m so very sorry to hear about your difficult time. I hope it passes as quickly as possible, and that you all are well and healthy. I’ll be thinking of you.

      Sending much love.

  9. Joey on August 8, 2015 at 12:00 am

    This post is right on time. I needed one of your eloquent pep talks to get through my little confused temporary maze way. Thanks for the perspective and reminders… I’m committed to “Carrier Duty”! :-)

    • Jean on August 8, 2015 at 1:25 am

      Aww, thank you. Anytime. XXOO

  10. Melanie on August 8, 2015 at 12:12 am

    Making love-based choices, not fear-based – ah, yes. This is always a challenge, and I am trying to overcome the weak choices. DIFFICULT. It’s so easy for my routines to become ruts.
    And here you are, shaking me up using your chillin’ state of mind. Looking amazing while you do it. I love how you twist clothes into your style so they shine brighter than they ever did. Your hair, oh yes, this is a good move.

    • Jean on August 8, 2015 at 1:41 am

      I suspect that’s true for many, the routine/rut conundrum. When you frame it like that, I have several areas that need some examination. Thank you for that. And thank you for the lovely compliments!! I think I might be shining just a bit brighter now, too. XXOO

  11. Jewel Merrell on August 9, 2015 at 12:50 am

    Wonderful and thought provoking mixed with a fun sense of humor–
    who doesn’t love this approach to life with all it’s unanswerable questions!?
    It the loving kindness that is the solid here! When I used to get worried(about choices I
    made or things I had done when I was younger) my mom would always say “there’s nothing
    written in stone, honey, except our loving kindness, our love is the foundation for all of our
    success and our failures, and questions and answers.” Sometimes when I’m overloaded or feeling frazzled
    I think of Love as a beautiful piece of marble, solid enough to build
    a life on and smooth and cool enough to sooth my flushed cheek in a
    moment of fear or worry. Thank you for such a great post. Makes me smile!

    • Jean on August 10, 2015 at 1:15 pm

      What a blessing to have such a wise mother! I like your image of marble. Thank YOU for such a lovely comment. XXOO

  12. Connie Pappalardo on August 10, 2015 at 1:36 pm

    I’ve been looking for a red blouse all over creation this summer and there you are with the perfect one! I am inspired to keep seeking.

    You know what confuses me? How humans invented the wheel thousands of years ago and only figured out to put them on luggage in 1980.

    • Jean on August 11, 2015 at 10:32 pm

      Keep checking Goodwill. That’s where I found mine. As far as wheels-on-luggage is concerned, after contemplating for a few moments, I’m tempted to say that luggage (as we know it today) was originally shlepped by shleppers. With the democratization of air travel, in particular, maybe it took a minute for the manufacturers to get up to speed?

      I’ll confess, that particular question has never crossed my mind. In my house we call that “intelligence run amok” (or amuck, if you prefer). I’ve got plenty of others, however. :-)

  13. Vix on August 11, 2015 at 11:41 am

    I know nothing about driving as I’ve never taken a driving test so can’t help you there! I’m rubbish with mobile phones, too. I put mine somewhere safe over a month ago and still haven’t found it!
    What I can tell you is that you’re looking stunning, I adore your hair and that South American shirt with the stripes. Decision making? Go with the gut. xxxx

    • Jean on August 11, 2015 at 10:41 pm

      Oh, those “safe places”!! I’m forever putting things in them, really important things. The only reason I can usually keep up with my phone is because I (hopefully) have the ringer turned up and Joey calls it for me. Otherwise I’d be dead. I actually need the thing for work etc.

      Don’t drive? Good for you!! Wish it wasn’t a necessity here. Thanks for the compliments, too. And yes, always go with the gut. :-) Sending love!!!!!

  14. Curtise on August 11, 2015 at 7:14 pm

    Looking gorgeous in your stripes and elegant drapery, dear Jean, even in your state of confusion! It made me laugh that you mentioned me and Vix in relation to a driving issue – we’re two of the UK’s non-drivers!
    Hey, I have no answers about how to live life, but being kind and loving where you can sounds a good enough philosophy to me. Not sure I’m all that good at it, but I can try to do it on a small scale at least! xxx

    • Jean on August 11, 2015 at 10:53 pm

      So, neither one of you drives. It’s interesting to me because the public transit here is so abysmal that it’s essential to drive if you want to have any autonomy at all. Everything is spread out, too. We’re similar to Los Angeles in that regard. I hate it. I like walking and taking the train/subway/bus when I’m in a city that has a decent system.

      You not good at being kind? There are lots of ways, and they don’t all look the same. Somehow i think you’re doing your part. XXOO

  15. Maureen on August 25, 2015 at 3:23 am

    Just discovered you from Style Crone, as I am always on the look out for new blogs to absorb. I love the infinity scarf and have plans to make one for myself.

    I note you are/were on the lookout for face cream. Having had this battle myself I discovered Liz Earle and my dry, sensitive and prone to eczema skin found nourishment. I don’t know if it is gettable in the US, but they sell sample sizes of products. I use the skin creams.

    • Jean on August 25, 2015 at 10:43 am

      Hi Maureen! Thanks so much for stopping by. I’d love to know about your infinity scarf, what materials you use etc. I’m glad you like it! I’ll look into the face cream recommendation. I’ve never heard of that line, but with the miracle of the internet, I’m guessing I’ll find it.

      Looking forward to hearing from you again. XXOO

  16. shawna on August 25, 2015 at 3:23 pm

    You are so gorgeous just chillin. I want to wear drapey things and gorgeously chill just like you. Your effortless arty-boho chic is purely masterful and you outshine any celebrity I’ve ever seen who attempts it. You make Rachael Zoe look clueless.
    I heard some vague mumblings on the radio about a plan to ‘crack down’ on drivers who stay in the left lane but I’ll believe that when I see it. First they need to pass some sort of law allowing drivers who do this to be ticketed. Then they will be all over cracking down on it!

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