Throughout history, wise people have cautioned against borrowing and lending. In Hamlet, for example, Polonius exhorts, “Neither a borrower nor a lender be, for a loan oft loses both itself and friend, and borrowing dulls the edge of husbandry“. My question is, does it count when it’s family? How about immediate family, like your spouse?
A sewing instructor once told me that you should never tell people you sew. They immediately start envisioning all the wonderful things you can make for them. Being the nice person that you are, you’ll numbly nod and agree to try. I’ve seen it happen. I’ve gotten smarter though. Now I smile and say, “I only sew for myself. I call myself the selfish seamstress because I really don’t have time to sew for other people.” Generally that’s true, with the exception of an occasional gift or two.
My problem is this: Joey asked me to make a scarf for him. Of course I said yes, and I’m glad I did. That’s not the problem. The problem is that I love it with every outfit I’ve put together since. I’ve worn it three days straight, which is saying something because I finished it four days ago. He told me I could wear it as much as I like and I quickly emphasized that he can always ask for it at anytime. I still feel guilty, though. How do you give someone a present and then immediately borrow it…like, every day?!!
It’s just that when I put on my upcycled suit coat, for instance, the scarf was the perfect accent. I mean, what am I supposed to do?!
I know that the solution is to make another scarf, although it will never be the same. All the materials were thrifted and therefore finite, which is part of the appeal. I’d better try sooner than later, though. I’d hate to have the ghost of Shakespeare in my head, wagging a finger, saying, “I told you so!”
Outfit details: Scarf, skirt and suitcoat- thrifted and upcycled, leather jacket- TJ Maxx markdown 4 years ago, hat- DSW, earrings- gift, ring- thrifted, glasses- local optician